FITRA
Fitra, or fitrah (Arabic فطرة), is an Arabic word meaning ‘disposition’, ‘nature’, ‘constitution’, or ‘instinct’.The word fitrah comes from the Arabic radicals fa ta ra.The root action means, he clove, split, slit, rent or cracked it. The term fitrah literally means, creation; the causing a thing to exist for the first time; and the natural constitution with which a child is created in his mother’s womb. It is for this reason that Muslims prefer to refer to those who embrace Islam as reverts rather than converts, as it is believed they are returning to a perceived pure state.
Babies
don't have a problem with self image. They have milk from their
mother because they're hungry and they don't care what anyone thinks
about their crying and attempts at the breast. They feel themselves
become stronger and are up for a new challenge. Time to crawl! Yes
they mushed their nose on the carpet a hundred times and even went
backwards for a while but do they give up? Nope. They master crawling
and time for a new challenge. Up they go on two legs. Do they listen
or care about their family chasing after them saying no no be careful
baby you're going to fall! Absolutely not. They motor and they love
it.
Look
at the amazing way we started out, our natural instinct to strive for
whatever we wanted to accomplish and succeed at it. As life would
have it, things begin to change. Our natural state becomes altered by
negative talk and ideas which we integrate to become our self image.
You're
weak, you're ugly, you're stupid. These ideas repeated over and over
extract us from our primordial human instincts and oppress us. There
is a lot of discourse on the negative effects that media has on self
image and we've all been reading that for years. We usually nod in
agreement and move on passively. Less often do we reflect on what we
have internalized from our own upbringing and childhood experiences.
Where is our own self esteem and self image at these days?
I'm
reminded of the story of Abdullah
Ibn Masud and Julaybib.
Both Abdullah and Julaybib had similar tests in life. Abdullah was
slight of build and short. Julaybib was a dwarf as well as
“deformed”. Imagine where their self esteem and self image could
have led them. Instead, because of the teachings and guidance through
Prophet Mohammed (pbuh) their stories are beautiful and noble and
heroic. Abdullah successfully fought in the battles of Uhud, Battle
of the Ditch and Tabuk. He killed Abu Jahl, a warrior famous for his
slaughter of countless Muslims. He is considered the 8th
most prominent transmitter of hadiths. He also held a trusted
position of treasurer in government. Julaybib was married to the most
beautiful pious woman of her tribe and fought alongside the Prophet (pbuh)
and died in battle beside 7 enemies he had slain beforehand.
Both men
are amazing examples of what the reminder of our original disposition
can do in our lives.
THE
COOLNESS OF OUR EYES
Children
need help internalizing strength to fight against negative
programming. If we begin with our children and teach them to
internalize a strong, positive self image, they will lead themselves
to success and also be able to lead others.
Words
– positive beliefs, patience and encouragement. It's easy i can do
it. This will develop intrinsic motivation in your child.
Actions
– they will copy your actions so want for the ummah what you want
for yourself. Offer your child activities they can enjoy and be
successful in. Have fun and play with your kids.
Habits
– kids can smell hypocrisy a mile away. They see the world through
different eyes than we do and will catch contradictory behaviours.
Think about the teachers you had when you were younger. Which ones
did you have the most respect for? The ones who were consistent and
whose actions matched their words. How can we stay consistent, avoid
hypocrisy and teach our children through example? Design your epic
day. We're not looking to be perfect but we are looking for our
routine to be orderly and reproducable.
CALL
TO ACTION
- take a few minutes to imagine what your ideal day would look like
- make a list of the activities that would be in your ideal day
- start tracking how you currently spend your days. Once you start tracking your time and become conscious you'll be stunned how internally conflicted you are
- You can't want it because someone else wants it for you, you have to want it for yourself. Begin to redevelop that intrinsic motivation we are all born with.
Here is
an example of a daily routine:
- 30 minutes of prayer
Once you
have your own routine set and going smoothly, sit down with your kids
and have a discussion about their “epic” day. Ask them what their
dreams are and check what goals are most important to them. At this
point it's important to listen and understand what their choices are
and where the motivation is coming from. Help them to choose one goal
to achieve and a time line for it to be achieved.
It can
become easy to have good intentions yet not follow through on your
plans. One of my goals for this year is to get healthy. To me this
means a healthy mindset, healthy eating, weight loss and exercise.
Two things have been invaluable to my striving for success. One is
the best friend a woman could ever have inspiring me through Islam
and encouraging me like a boss. The second is my accountability app
MyFitnessPal. Tracking calories and daily exercise shows you real
time actions and keeps you honest with yourself.
check
out the above link for some apps that will help you track your habits
and goals.
Our
innate nature, what we were born with, is that we are all fearless
warriors. Seek what is good and powerful about yourself and strive to
present it to the world. Share your knowledge, share your unique
abilities, never give up because the world needs more of what you
have.
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